So am I getting played or is it all OK?

 

This morning I spoke on TV3’s Sunrise  about why you tend to attract the same sort of person when you’re dating (In this situation it was gay guys for a straight girl) and advice for a woman who’s partner has broken up with her- but is still ringing and expecting the odd booty calls.

If you’re stuck in a dating rut- dating the same sort of guy over and over it’s more about you than it is them. You are attracting the guys your psyche thinks it needs to be whole. So take some time out to develop new ideas, and then focus on dating a wide range of different people. During this time it is so important not to trust your own chemistry hints- because that part of you is geared towards a specific type. 

However what do you do if you’ve broken up with someone but he’s finding it hard to break the ties? Well human nature as it is means we’ll always take what we can get for free. if he can get all of you without needing to be in a relationship he will. This doesn’t make him a bad person- it makes him NORMAL. It’s up to you to work out what you will and will not allow him to have in your life- and the best thing is to go with very little to nothing. Otherwise you’re going to have to be very emotionally resilient.