I remember when this song came out a few years ago. I’d just broken up from my first big relationship since my marriage had ended. I listened to this song again and again and again. Nothing like wallowing in pity through music!
The ironic thing is I’m really the other side of this song in many ways. I’ve really discovered so much about myself since I left my marriage. I felt a weight came off and I was no longer shadowed under the heavy weight of all the marriage stress. I began to feel like I was unfolding, finding myself. I still feel like there has been a gradually opening of myself- to freedom of self, to confidence no matter what. Sure I still have bad days, but that general feeling continues to grow and cement itself inside me
I thought it was due to all the bad stuff going on in my marriage- the violence, the illness, the constant change, worry and stress. But after I got a letter from a friend a realised it’s not the level of bad stuff that reduces our ability to be who we fully are- it can just be the fact the combination of us, and them was just plain not the best option for either of us. This person’s marriage didn’t end for any big factor. It just wasn’t right.
This is what the person said:
It is just hard for me to come to terms with the fact that somehow I created a shadow so great that she didn’t grow and realise some of her potential. She is kick arse now
A good relationship will bring out of ourselves more of us than we ever imagine possible. A bad relationship will do the reverse. It doesn’t need to be violent, but a dysfunctional relationship is soul destroying to at least one person in a marriage.
I’ve seen some truly amazing marriages and relationships in the last year. They are full of love, of laughter and a heathy appreciation of both partners. They work
But a bad relationship? it’s better to be single. Happier. Definitely.
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