We’re covering some pretty major issues in Sunrise’s Rachel Goodchild’s Good Advice spot. I’m pretty humbled at the types of things people think i can help them with- this week we covered how to get over being stood up, and then we talked about what to do if you’re married to a control freak.
I think the biggest lesson I’ve learnt in my life is that by looking after number one, you also end up looking after your dependants. Once children are involved we think leaving a destructive relationship is going to do them a huge injustice. However we all, as a general rule, need to be more proactive as adults to creating a life where all our needs are being met- which includes our emotional, physical and spiritual.
A controlling relationship is just another abusive relationship. It’s hard to step back from it when you are in it and see it for what it is, but it’s never a good thing to be living in.
If you’re in a relationship that’s leaching all your live and spark out of you, remember the person you once were. And start talking to people. Find a safe ear and use it. Just that alone might be the thing you need to do to find a way out – either by changing your own behaviour so they no longer can control you, or by leaving.
And if you have children, learning to do just that gives you far greater opportunity to demonstrate love, laughter and light than staying still in a destructive relationship.
Eighty Eight Dates by Rachel Goodchild 
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