I went to Andy Clay’s Book of Love last night, courtesy of Andy Clay- along with two lucky people who read this blog. And it was very funny and really well acted by his four other cast members. It was definitely written from a male’s perspective, which stands to reason when Andy Clay is to all intent and purposes a male who LOVES dating, but may not be the best at relationships.
However it reminded me that some of our popular ideas of how women and men both behave seem to not have caught up with what is actually going on (or at least as to how men see what is going on). So here are my chosen points of difference:
1. Some women do go out to find someone to have casual sex with. They don’t actually do it cos they got drunk. They didn’t get picked up unsuspecting and innocent. They were seeking it out. And they sometimes hunt in packs to get it. They are good at it. Because, as we know, most men can barely believe their luck except…
2. Men don’t quite believe their luck and think not only there is a catch but it’s not really as fun as doing the chasing themselves. Here’s this girl who is saying she’s cool to take home, and she’ll be happy to leave in the morning, and the alarm bells start ringing. I ‘ve interviewed SO many men who have completely felt taken advantage of by some of these women. And these aren’t wimpy guys. They just never saw it coming.
3. If however, you are a girl who wants to pick up a guy, there are three sure fire sentences to get a guy’s interest In fact I’ve known men to walk across the room on the whiff of one of these statements. They are as follows:
a. I kissed a girl the other week
b. I love yoga but had to give it up as I’m too flexible
c. one or two drinks and I’m anyones.
It doesn’t really matter what order these statements come in. But they do work. Though of course women don’t try to pick up guys…. do they?
The key is to let them still think they are doing the pick up- even though you started it. We women may always be told we are right (apparently that was the best and most accurate advice given last night 
) but we also know the guy likes to feel he’s in charge. Even if we started it. Right?
*Disclaimer. Of course i’m not saying you SHOULD be going out, be you male or female, to go get some casual sex. You’d never do that…..
My former flatmate told me the girl who had my room before me used to go hunting for men every week. She didn’t bother with making them feel in charge, according to him. She’d just brazenly walk up to them and ask them if they wanted to come home with her and I guess they rarely refused.
And for most men out there, yes that would work. i’m glad to see some women are more honest than most out there..
Nice article! It’s true you have to make them believe they are doing the pick up. I’ve field tested asking them directly (after some flirting and obvious attraction of both parts) and they completely feaked out! LOL