The Honest Dater

I can’t stress how important it is to be honest when you are dating. I’ve been out with men who’ve lied about their appearance, their age, their jobs, and even their sexual conquests. It’s a deal breaker for me.

I know why we lie. We want someone to like us. And maybe we don’t like the person we are, so lying makes it all feel better somehow. But building a relationship on lies means they still don’t like you. They like the person you have pretended to be instead.

It’s hard to be honest if you’re not feeling confident. Maybe if that’s you, think about dating yourself for a bit first (that means spending some time finding out about yourself)- spending time finding out how cool you are.

Confidence is the most attractive attribute any of us can own. It’s a powerful thing that overcomes imperfections. And we only gain it when we like ourselves as we are.

I love an honest dater. It’s a pleasure spending time in the company of someone like that. And I can only hope I’m honest back. I think anyone I spend time with deserves to decide to like me, not the person I think I should be.

5 Responses to “The Honest Dater”


  1. 1 sugardaddydating April 16, 2009 at 8:14 pm

    OK honest dater is great, but I’m the one that doesn’t say all the things, keeping something for myself though the rest I’m telling is honest and sincere (that’s just from the beginning), so can I be called an honest dater?

    • 2 rgoodchild April 16, 2009 at 9:54 pm

      Well it’s probably good not to spill your guts out on the first date! it’s more just about being who you are. And if that includes being a man of layers, like an onion, or SHREK….Then that’s you! And that is completely ok :)

  2. 3 Cameron Sharpe May 22, 2009 at 4:18 am

    Dating should be a fun and exciting experience. Everybody is looking to have fun while dating. Meeting that special someone is a valuable experience and should not be taken lightly. If you have not met your soul mate, then chances are that you are looking for that person. Finding that special guy or gal may seem to be an never-ending process. However, when you do find that person you want to keep them in love and happy.


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